I'd start by making sure you have the resources you need from the medical care system.
Ideally, the facility's discharge planner should help you with this. Resources include
home care with a nurse and physical therapist and, hopefully, a social worker and
home health aide to help with bathing, etc., if that is needed. The physical therapist
should teach you techniques to help you care for your mom, for example transfer
skills. The nurse also should help you look at your mother's care and see what could
be streamlined to make your job easier.
The social worker can help you access community resources, such as Meals on Wheels
or paratransit to get her to doctor's appointments. If you do not have home care,
then I would call your local Area Agency on Aging, or, in California, your Caregiver
Resource Center, and ask them what services are available in your community. If
you have family or friends nearby, it will reduce your stress if you could ask them
to help you, whether to do some shopping for you, stay with mom while you do errands,
or just be an ear to listen when you need someone to talk to. My last bit of advice:
Don't be afraid to ask for what you need!
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