ELDER CARE A-Z

By Dr. Marion Somers, Ph. D., Ask Dr. Marion

QUESTION: With so many things to think about, how do you stay sane and organized throughout the process? Is there some kind of reminder list or checklist? Didi in South Carolina, 60

ANSWER: I know that caregiving can be an overwhelming challenge to undertake. You're not alone. There are millions of others in your same position. Make a copy of this list and put it on your refrigerator or desk at work. It could become a shorthand way to keep you organized, and I hope it lifts your spirits.

• A Address the issue/issues at hand.
• B Be bold and accept the reality of the situation.
• C Categorize everything that must be dealt with.
• D Delegate where possible.
• E Ethical decisions must be made at all times.
• F Financial matters should be in order.
• G Get going and don't procrastinate.
• H Help is available if you search and ask.
• I Independence must be considered at all times for your elder.
• J Juxtapose your thoughts with your elder's and think about what they need.
• K Keep a journal of contacts including names, dates, times, topics, outcomes, next steps.
• L Legal issues should be handled in a specific and comprehensive manner.
• M Make time for your own family, job, and social life.
• N Know the desired outcomes, goals, and projected solutions to the challenges.
• O Organize your thoughts and plan ways to address each challenge.
• P Prioritize your own issues and time constraints.
• Q Quality of life, for both you and your elder, must be addressed.
• R Recreation and time away is necessary and healthy for your own peace of mind.
• S Search for all resources that might help your caregiving journey.
• T Trust the elder you're caring for, and trust your basic caregiving instincts.
• U Understand that being a caregiver requires patience.
• V Visit your elder in person, or call them on the phone, or send cards, letters, flowers and gifts.
• W Write out all information and keep it current.
• X X-haustion may set in so find ways to relieve stress.
• Y You're doing a great job - congratulate yourself.
• Z Zone out and reward yourself for a job well done.