MUSIC

By Dr. Marion Somers, Ph. D., Ask Dr. Marion

QUESTION: Even though my grandma seems to be out of it most of the time, I really want to show her how much I appreciate her positive impact on my life. Can I do this through her love of music? Debbie in Michigan, 45

ANSWER: Of course you can, Debbie. In fact, I encourage you do so starting today. Most of us grow up with some form of music in our lives. Whether it's learning to play an instrument or having family members sing to us, it's likely we have some fondness for music. And music is in our lives in so many different ways. There's the radio, television, CDs, DVDs, and now IPODs.

For an elderly individual, music's most powerful effect is that it integrates into the long-term memory. As we age, music of the past holds a powerful significance since it can bring back positive memories from childhood and young adulthood. The right song can put someone right back in an eventful moment like a first kiss, a first dance, a favorite movie, or a special achievement. Someone can fall in love all over again if they hear the right song ? it's that powerful. These positive memories in turn can help your grandma cope and focus on the positive in life. Music can bring her back to who she was and help her move forward with who she is now. It can make her feel that she's more connected to her family and surrounding community.

More than a few times, I've seen someone's favorite old music pull them right out of their seats, even if they are confined to a wheelchair. It can free them of their physical problems if for just a fleeting moment. So ask your grandmother about her favorite music, holiday tunes, and lullabies and then play them for her. Music is like magic. It has the power to revive people and resuscitate their sense of self.